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Do you think love is reall?
Many have argued that romantic love is a predominantly Western phenomenon, or at least not a concept familiar to all mankind. In many cultures around the world, ie the concept of romantic love (between a man and a woman) does not mean anything to people. Relationships are shaped more by political or practical reasons. Caring for a spouse and raising a family fufiling about one's duty, instead of being in love. You see this a lot in marraiges organized, where the husband and wife did not know each other until their wedding day, then in the course of things his life's work out. You might also see this in societies where there is no institution of marriage, men and women have children by many members of their society, but men and women have to play certain tasks to parenting societies. So love is socially constructed or somethign I missed? I'd love to see what you have to say.
I think in terms of your question, which is a bit of both. I think that in some societies, romantic love can not be something that is recognized as important, but I think people in these societies are still able to feel it. For example, in the case of arranged marriages, have you not heard of one does not want to marry because he is in love someone else? Of course, wants usually means nothing in their society, but the point is that only romantic love is not the social norm in their culture does not mean does not exist. I think much of American culture pushes the idea of "soul mates". Blame it on all the contests in magazines silly women, in an excess of telenovelas during the day, unrealistic plots with fairy tale ending or whatever, but do not have this concept that there is a "perfect" person out there to complete us. I mean, look how it's become commercialized - match.com, eHarmony, etc. - pay a load of money and we'll match up with your soulmate. Do not think love really exist? Absolutely. But that does not exist, so that perfect fairy tale is so little that we often see in American culture? Very unlikely. I've always heard, "You simply have not found". "The one" is interpreted so that in this culture must have the belief that when I meeting "him," The angels are singing, the clouds part, and will fly from the sky on a sunbeam and whisk me off on horseback to an exotic destination in the central Caribbean, where we made love until dawn and all my problems will subside and we will live happily ever after in a perfect world, free of drama and chaos. Seriously, any of you have ever read such stories in magazines? So partly answer your question, yes - more or less. I think the concept love is a social construction, and is based on society. Do not get me wrong, I'm with an amazing guy that I spent two wonderful years with. I would not change for nothing. But our society makes love to be something that is exaggerated. As happy as I do, no angels singing, and we still have bills to pay and a lot of chaos to go around. It is not as promising as it has become. That's my two cents. 
